So far, the second decade of this millennia has been full of trials and tribulations.
COVID-19 is crushing the global economy burying us deeper into a recession, while the worldwide population fears for its health and safety.
Not to mention, “mask” hysteria has created a divide between those who’ve accepted and adapted and those who believe their freedom is at risk.
There are some who refuse masks based on the belief that they increase your chances of getting sick, and some people just don’t care either way.
The murder of George Floyd was broadcast on social media for hundreds of thousands of people to see. The ripple effect of which brought racial injustice and inequality to the forefront more so than ever.
Protests are spreading across the world almost as fast as the virus.
Along with peaceful protests come violent riots—and dishonest people, perched high or slunk low, are taking advantage of the chaos.
There was something about murder hornets too; and whispers of a swine flu with pandemic potential linger in the background
And let’s not get started on the political and civil unrest south of the border. Hell, there’s no denying the same turmoil is alive and well right here in Canada.
Our everyday lives, daily habits, and routines have shifted since the beginning of 2020, and it’s unlikely that will change anytime soon—that’s to say, everything will continue to change.
With that, I can’t fault you for cursing 2020 as the worst year ever.
Is it really though?
Every year has its share of fuckery—from disease and famine to segregation and hate crimes to economic downturn and market instability.
Threats of terrorism are constant—if we’re to believe mainstream media— and cancer—in some form or another—has been stealing our loved ones for centuries.
This is my theory: the year is what you make it.
Good. Bad. Ugly.
2020 is the best year and the worst year. Or it’s just another 366 days in a long list of days that come and go like turning an hourglass over, and over, and over, and over again.
“If shit happens, do I have to step in it?”
I recently began reading Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. The book describes the technique of “letting go of the barriers to Enlightenment and freeing yourself of negativity.”
In it, Dr. Hawkins notes the phenomena where you create that which you think about most often. And more often than not, we focus on the bad instead of the good.
It boils down to this: the more you concentrate on negativity, the more you sense it, feel it, attract it, and project it—embracing positivity produces similar yet more rewarding results.
It involves the Buddhist practice of removing attachment from you possessions, your successes, and your failures; but more importantly, detaching yourself from negative emotions.
Pride. Grief. Anger. Fear.
It’s alarming how much negativity we hold on to and how harmful that energy can be to our physical and mental health.
Here are a five key takeaways:
- Avoid doom scrolling—it’s good to keep yourself informed on current events, but don’t trudge through all the troll shit on social media.
- Surrender your emotions—rather than suppressing or repressing your feelings, accept them for what they are and let them go (read the book for guidance).
- Reinforce positive behaviour—direct your energy and attention towards micro-moments of happiness and nip negative self-talk in the bud.
- Give kindness freely—not only is this the humane thing to do, but the more goodness you hand out, the more you receive in return.
- Keep moving forward—setbacks, failures, and heartbreaks are unavoidable; your actions afterwards determine their value.
It’s all a little esoteric.
Let me put it this way: if you believe 2020 is the worst year ever, then you’re right.
And you’ll continually seek out examples to prove your accuracy—that’s pride at work—risking your physical and mental health and eroding the strength of meaningful relationships.
It’s more constructive to let go of the belief that this year is the worst ever.
Why not look through the lens of positivity and view 2020 as just another year instead?
Consider it the year of opportunity and allow yourself to experience the kindness, generosity, and love that outweighs the cluster-fuck of the past few months.
Just because shit happens, it doesn’t mean you have to step in it.
Don’t be afraid of happiness
I’ll be first to admit my mental fortitude crumbles from time to time. As the saying goes, “you are your own worst enemy.”
That’s why I’m doubling down on self-awareness and staying woke to my internal dialogue. No longer will I be victim to negative emotions—I prefer to use that energy in a more productive manner.
And in all honesty, 2020 has been a pretty great year for me so far.
Besides the obvious lack of in-person connection with friends and family and the uncertainty of the pandemic’s full implications, I can’t complain.
- I’ve been given an amazing new career opportunity with a promising future
- I have a loving, supporting, and challenging (in a good way) partner by my side
- I’ve improved my communication skills with others and within myself
- I’ve learned how to combat procrastination and manage my time more efficiently
- I’ve reevaluated what matters most and identified what doesn’t
Yes, I am in a better position than many, but there are those worse off who feel more blessed than I do—it’s all about perspective.
That’s why I don’t believe 2020 to be the worst year ever. In fact, it just might be the best!
Let’s chat about it.
The Diary of Davis: you monthly dose of inspiration
Recently, I published the inaugural edition of the Diary of Davis: a monthly chronicle of personal growth and professional development.
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